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Enlarge the emotional pie

People are loathing complainers. They are everywhere, life was harsh, when they were vulnerable other took advantage of them. The system is against them or simple events were not aligned with their life plans. There are not many who can run around unexpected events and take the blows and turn them around.

How do you vent out if not complaining? Ask for advice, present your facts and leave others the judgement. One of the impulses we have is to categorize and jump on analyzing. What if you leave time between event and your reaction, especially an emotional one. Time is dampening the immediate response and emotions are not resisting erosion. It is very simple to pull arguments in favor of your view (bias oriented). You will never build an argument against your status-quo or the comfort of your views. Contradictions, opposite views are not laying good with our psyche.

A person you respect and look to advice for might give another weight and perspective to your personal events. A mentor can create a view point discovered in time by experience. A wise relative might have the same influence on you. Seek their advice, allow them to enlarge your "tunnel-vision" emotional response.

P.S Enlarge the pie - is coming from economics, or conflict resolution where people are seeing only one pie to share.
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